A free SEL curriculum map

How this sequence is built

SEL skills have prerequisites the way math skills do — regulation without emotion vocabulary is a script without words, and repair without regulation collapses into a second argument. We ordered the year the way open prerequisite-mapped curricula order micro-skills: each term's work assumes only what earlier terms taught. Run one lesson a week and one daily activity, and adjust pace freely — the order matters more than the calendar.

Term 1 — Notice and name

Recognizing feelings in yourself, building the vocabulary to report them, establishing check-in routines.

Weekly lessons

Naming feelings — K–2 · 20 minutes · Self-awareness

Feelings thermometer — K–2 · 15 minutes · Self-awareness

Where feelings live in the body — 3–5 · 25 minutes · Self-awareness

Two feelings at once — 3–5 · 20 minutes · Self-awareness

Strengths inventory — 6–8 · 20 minutes · Self-awareness

Daily activities

Weather report check-in — Pre-K–K · 3 minutes · Self-awareness

Fist to five check-in — 3–5 · 2 minutes · Self-awareness

Unfinished sentences jar — K–2 · 6 minutes · Self-awareness

Term 2 — Manage and wait

Regulation strategies practiced while calm, impulse control, matching response size to problem size.

Weekly lessons

Waiting my turn — K–2 · 15 minutes · Self-management

My calming strategies menu — K–2 · 20 minutes · Self-management

Mistakes that taught somebody something — 3–5 · 25 minutes · Self-management

Problem size, problem response — 3–5 · 25 minutes · Responsible decision-making

Goal, obstacle, plan — 6–8 · 25 minutes · Self-management

Daily activities

Belly breathing buddies — Pre-K–K · 4 minutes · Self-management

Cool-down corner, taught before it's needed — K–2 · 10 minutes to teach, 1–3 minutes to use · Self-management

Two-minute gratitude write — 6–8 · 5 minutes · Self-awareness

Term 3 — Read the room

Noticing others: reading faces and body language, checking inferences instead of assuming, perspective-taking.

Weekly lessons

Reading the room — 3–5 · 20 minutes · Social awareness

Assume the backstory — 6–8 · 20 minutes · Social awareness

Gratitude share — 3–5 · 15 minutes · Social awareness

Asking for help — K–2 · 15 minutes · Relationship skills

Bullying, bystanders, and upstanders — 3–5 · 30 minutes · Responsible decision-making

Daily activities

Emotion charades — K–2 · 10 minutes · Social awareness

Kindness spotting — Pre-K–K · 2 minutes daily · Social awareness

Mirror movement — Pre-K–K · 5 minutes · Relationship skills

Term 4 — Work it out together

Listening, conflict navigation, repair after rupture, shared decision-making — the skills the first three terms exist to enable.

Weekly lessons

Active listening circle — 3–5 · 25 minutes · Relationship skills

Roles that make groups work — 3–5 · 25 minutes · Relationship skills

Conflict pause — 6–8 · 18 minutes · Self-management

Peer pressure and the exit lines — 6–8 · 25 minutes · Responsible decision-making

Assertive, not aggressive — 6–8 · 25 minutes · Relationship skills

Giving and receiving feedback — 6–8 · 30 minutes · Relationship skills

Repair after rupture — 6–8 · 22 minutes · Relationship skills

Whose decision is it? — 3–5 · 20 minutes · Responsible decision-making

Daily activities

Compliment web — 3–5 · 10–15 minutes · Relationship skills

Silent line-up — 3–5 · 5–8 minutes · Relationship skills

Would-you-rather, values edition — 3–5 · 8–10 minutes · Responsible decision-making

Rose, thorn, bud — 6–8 · 5–8 minutes · Self-awareness

Adapting by grade band

The map lists lessons across bands; teach the ones tagged for yours and borrow the adjacent band's variations — every lesson's variations section says how to shift it up or down. Pre-K and kindergarten classrooms should lean on the activities library (weather check-in, mirror movement, belly breathing) for terms 1–2 and treat formal lessons as optional until K–2 lessons fit. High school is not covered here yet; the 6–8 material stretches upward imperfectly, and we would rather say that than pretend.

Curriculum questions

What is the best SEL curriculum?

Honestly: the one your school will actually run every week. Widely adopted commercial programs — Second Step, Character Strong, Harmony, Kimochis, Quaver and others — bring scripted scope-and-sequence, training, and evidence files, and we do not review or rank them here because we have not evaluated them in classrooms. What this page offers instead is free: a skill-sequenced year built from our own lessons and activities that a single teacher can run without a purchase order. Many schools use a free sequence like this to build habits before committing curriculum budget.

Is this an evidence-based SEL curriculum?

No, and we will not borrow that phrase. "Evidence-based" properly means a program whose specific materials were studied in controlled evaluations, which ours have not been. The sequencing logic — skills ordered so each term builds on the last — follows the same design principle as researched frameworks like the CASEL five competencies, and each lesson explains its own reasoning. If your district requires a formally evaluated program, this page is a supplement, not a substitute.

Why sequence SEL skills at all?

Because the skills stack. A student cannot manage a feeling they cannot name, cannot check an inference about a classmate before learning that inferences need checking, and cannot repair a conflict without regulation to get through the conversation. Curricula that treat SEL as a grab-bag of nice activities miss the dependency structure — which is why our year runs notice → manage → read others → work it out together, in that order.

Can I use this for homeschool or a small co-op?

Yes, with one adaptation: many lessons use pair and circle formats, so in very small groups the adult plays the partner role, and "class norms" become family or co-op norms. The sequence itself holds at any group size. The printable lesson skeleton makes weekly planning close to zero-prep.